What is the spark that ignites a conversation? Why can a conversation be transformative? What makes a conversation different from any other type of communication?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Royal Spanish Academy (RAE) defines \u201cconversar\u201d<\/strong> (to converse) in its first meaning as \"Said of one or more people: To speak with another or others,\"<\/strong> and proposes synonyms such as hablar (to speak),, charlar (to chat), platicar (to talk), tertuliar (to converse), parlamentar (to discuss), dialogar (to dialogue)...<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Beyond definitions, conversing is an act that connects us, that challenges us, that engages us. It is about moving beyond chatter, idle talk, one-way communication, or objective information. None of this, and yet all of it, is part of conversation. That is why, in these times of media noise, of information and counter-information, of the speed and immediacy of the media and social networks, dedicating time and space to reflect together aloud can become something truly revolutionary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A conversation requires a calm encounter for dialogue and the exchange of opinions and perspectives with the sole intention of understanding and being understood, without needing to reach any conclusions. Conversation requires an open, understanding, compassionate, and curious attitude, a desire to know, but also a desire to get to know the other person through their words, thoughts, and gestures. It is an act of joint creation that requires presence and commitment in the very act of conversing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Often, conversations begin with a question or a phrase related to a specific topic, or from an image or some element that draws us in; but throughout the discussion, the initial ideas evolve into others that appear spontaneously and connect us with sensations, impressions, and\/or ideas that are like cracks allowing us to explore new paths along which the conversation will travel. It is like a dance of words, ideas, and images that we share on a stage, where we dissolve ourselves so that the focus becomes on the joint construction of a beautiful dance. Therefore, because of this dissolution of the egoic self in each of the participants, the conversation is extremely democratic, since each of us contributes what we feel, think, and believe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Conversations require a predisposition on our part to have an open, expectant, appreciative, and conscious listening mindset, one that sets aside prejudices or egoic thoughts. Deep listening allows us to build connections to understand each other, but also to understand ourselves. Listening well is a necessary skill for a deep conversation. It gives us the opportunity to be present for and with the other person, but it also requires a commitment to ourselves to be present and truly be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Appreciative listening involves attention and intention in the conversation. Attention to build upon what is shared and transform ourselves by generating new learning; and intention to value and appreciate what the other person communicates. In a conversation, deep and appreciative listening is circumstantial<\/strong>since it depends on the context, on how we feel about the topic discussed, on the situation expressed at a given moment; it is transformadora<\/strong>, puesto que un intercambio comunicativo real ampl\u00eda nuestra mirada y nos transforma; y es transformative<\/strong>, since a real communicative exchange broadens our perspective and transforms us. And it is generative, since it is the starting point for personal reflection, new conversations, and personal growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00bfCu\u00e1l es la chispa que enciende una conversaci\u00f3n? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 una conversaci\u00f3n puede ser transformadora? \u00bfQu\u00e9 hace diferente una conversaci\u00f3n de cualquier otro tipo de comunicaci\u00f3n? La definici\u00f3n que realiza la RAE de \u201cconversar\u201d en su primera acepci\u00f3n es \u201cDicho de una o de varias personas: Hablar con otra u otras\u201d y propone sin\u00f3nimos como hablar, parlamentar, charlar, platicar, tertuliar, parlamentar dialogar \u2026 M\u00e1s all\u00e1 de las definiciones, conversar es un acto que nos conecta, que nos interpela, que nos compromete. Se trata de superar el parloteo, la ch\u00e1chara, la comunicaci\u00f3n unidireccional o la informaci\u00f3n objetivable. Nada de esto y a la vez todo ello forman parte de la conversaci\u00f3n. Es por ello que en estos momentos de ruido medi\u00e1tico, de informaciones y contra informaciones, de rapidez e inmediatez de los medios de comunicaci\u00f3n y de las redes sociales, dedicar un tiempo y un espacio para reflexionar conjuntamente en voz alta puede convertirse en algo realmente revolucionario. Una conversaci\u00f3n requiere de un encuentro tranquilo para dialogar e intercambiar opiniones y pareceres con la \u00fanica voluntad de entender y entenderse sin necesidad de llegar a ninguna conclusi\u00f3n. Conversar requiere de una actitud abierta, comprensiva, compasiva, curiosa, ganas de saber pero, tambi\u00e9n, ganas de conocer al interlocutor a trav\u00e9s de sus palabras, de sus pensamientos, de sus gestos. Es un acto de creaci\u00f3n conjunta que requiere presencia y compromiso en el acto mismo de conversar. A menudo las conversaciones se inician con una pregunta o con una frase de una tem\u00e1tica determinada, o a partir de una imagen o de alg\u00fan elemento que nos convoca; pero a lo largo de la pl\u00e1tica las ideas iniciales evolucionan hacia otras que aparecen espont\u00e1neamente y que nos conectan con sensaciones, con impresiones y\/o ideas que son como rendijas que nos permiten explorar nuevos caminos por los que transitar\u00e1 la conversaci\u00f3n. Es como una danza de palabras, ideas, im\u00e1genes que compartimos en un escenario y donde nos diluimos para que el protagonismo sea el de la construcci\u00f3n conjunta de un hermoso baile. Por ello, por esa disoluci\u00f3n del yo egoico de las diferentes partes, la conversaci\u00f3n es sumamente democr\u00e1tica puesto que cada uno de nosotras aporta aquello que siente, piensa, cree\u2026 Las conversaciones requieren una predisposici\u00f3n por nuestra parte a tener una mentalidad de escucha abierta, sin expectativas, apreciativa, consciente y que deja de lado prejuicios o pensamientos egoicos. La escucha profunda permite construir v\u00ednculos para comprendernos entre nosotros pero tambi\u00e9n para comprenderme. Escuchar bien es una competencia necesaria para una conversaci\u00f3n profunda. Nos brinda la oportunidad de estar presente por y para la persona interlocutora, pero tambi\u00e9n requiere de un compromiso con uno mismo para estar y ser. La escucha apreciativa implica atenci\u00f3n e intenci\u00f3n en la conversaci\u00f3n. Atenci\u00f3n para poder construir a partir de lo compartido y transformarnos generando nuevos aprendizajes; e intenci\u00f3n para valorar y apreciar lo comunicado por el interlocutor. En una conversaci\u00f3n la escucha profunda y apreciativa es circunstancial, puesto que depende del contexto, de c\u00f3mo nos sentimos ante la tem\u00e1tica tratada, de la situaci\u00f3n expresada en un momento determinado; es transformadora, puesto que un intercambio comunicativo real ampl\u00eda nuestra mirada y nos transforma; y es generativa, puesto que es el punto de partida para la reflexi\u00f3n personal, nuevas conversaciones y el crecimiento personal.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1058,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_eb_attr":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_themeisle_gutenberg_block_has_review":false,"footnotes":"","_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1054","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1054","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1054"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1054\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1057,"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1054\/revisions\/1057"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1058"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1054"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1054"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elenaferreiro.es\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1054"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}